Just a quick flare! :{

[felisviolaceous]

Some people just need to get their hair yanked on HARD and an extremely rough knife drawn SLOWWWWWLYYYY across their necks...just so they do not spread their immature, intolerant attitudes to others!!!!

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[zenhedon.livejournal.com]

Heehee..well, that's nice & specific...NOT. I'm guessing this is to do with the new one at work, not something new, yes?

[brandyeileen.livejournal.com]

Missed you guys at the party, btw.

[felisviolaceous.livejournal.com]

Sorry we didn't get to make it...too many other things going on.
You going to Poly Big Fun? :D

[brandyeileen.livejournal.com]

No, I got too much going on with school and not enough money to do that sort of thing, really. Hope you have fun, though!

[felisviolaceous.livejournal.com]

WELL POO!!!! I'll make sure to dedicate a yelled out "SSSPPPPPPOOOOOOOOONNNN!!!!!" to you! :D

[brandyeileen.livejournal.com]

SPOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOON!

Next party is tentatively scheduled for the weekend of May 18-20, btw.

EEK!

[felisviolaceous.livejournal.com]

Scrith and I may be camping that weekend.
I'm not kidding when I tell everyone that if you want to schedule something with me...you got to catch me like 6 months ahead! :)

[felisviolaceous.livejournal.com]

Yes...something new...happened today at work. Appearently to a new co-worker we are in grade school, not in a professional adult office.

[roninjedi.livejournal.com]

*pucker!*

(backs slowly towards the exit, all the while watching the dangerous redhead)

Whoever it is, I'm sure zie's earned your venom. But DAY-um, baby!

[felisviolaceous.livejournal.com]

Didn't mean to scare you. :)

[zenhedon.livejournal.com]

Probably turned him on, like it did me (not the described act, mind you, but the intensity, the ferocity)

[roninjedi.livejournal.com]

Actually, it was both impressive and a touch scary. Being the the adult survivor of emotional child abuse (thanks, Dad!), I don't always handle emotional intensity in others with the rational detachment I should. In addition, I've worked ultra-hard for years to suppress any hint of emotional intensity in myself with near fatal results.

This is probably why I've only been able to go a little-ways into the BDSM world. That is a volitile world that is fueled by emotional intensity of many types. I'm too afraid of power (mine or others') to do anything more than dabble at domination (role playing). I'm too terrified of being at someone's "mercy" and receiving discomfort or actual (gasp) pain, to try subbing. Almost all mildly intense play classifies as "edge play" for me. I've only recently come to acknowledge the awful truth about myself.

I am, in fact, an extremely passionate individual who has learned to turn that passion completely off out of self-defense (like a Vulcan). I'm now in the process of learning how to cope with the idea of intensity. Once that's done, I hope to learn how to *use* emotional intensity. I suspect it can be skillfully wielded like a gentleman's rapier and not like a Neanderthal's club. Now I just need to figure out how to do that.

[zenhedon.livejournal.com]

suspect it can be skillfully wielded like a gentleman's rapier

Could be :-) What do YOU think, thenakedredhead - is that possible?

[sarcasm=off]
What it takes is being willing to use that intensity; for most of us raised to be gentlemen, that does mean having to circumvent/short-circuit our lifelong imprinted "be nice" conditioning. One trick is to realize...you're still "being nice" in the end - at least to a masochistic submissive piggyslut who's motto is "more more more" :-) It also helps to have a sadistic nature - not necessarily pain-sadism, but control, emotional-intensity sadism (there's probably a better word, can't think of it) - such that wielding that "rapier" is immensely satisfying & erotic.

It occurs to me that learning to "wield" emotional intensity would be very good for you - a way of dealing with it, other than detaching or turning it off. Glad to discuss more anytime...

[roninjedi.livejournal.com]

Glad to discuss more anytime...

Please!

But not tonight. Must sleep.

[felisviolaceous.livejournal.com]

Ooooohhhhh...I find it very easy for me to wield "it" like a gentleman's rapier. You two can pick the "it". *giggling*


As for emotional intensity, my whole life was lived with emotions out on our sleeves for all to see and do what they will with it. I was, fortunately, raised in a family where living like that didn't become a bad thing the older I became. The only drawback to it is apparently if you don't hide your emotions people assume you're immature.

One of the things I've really been searching in the BDSM world is the emotional intensity. Yes...the physical intensity is great and wonderful...but the emotional intensity can really rock one's world! Plus...with me being so open emotionally all my life...it becomes a challenge to find something that actually challenges my own emotional boundaries. That's where the mental aspects of dominance and submission comes into play for me.

[brandyeileen.livejournal.com]

*wonders where that came from*

[felisviolaceous.livejournal.com]

Had a woman at work feel the need to tell me, while I was on a call with a customer, that my voice is too loud. After allowing me to get back to my call, I laughed with my customer and the FUCKING BITCH mimicked it!!!! Loud enough of course for not only her neighbors to hear it but for me to hear it as well. Of course, I was in the middle of a call so I couldn't call it on her...and it IS a professional office so I ended up sitting...taking call after call all day and...STEWING!!!!

[msjodie.livejournal.com]

Tell her that she's just too meek and timid and to speak up or shut the f#$% up.

[msjodie.livejournal.com]

But don't let her win by affecting you in such a way that it makes you stew and be quiet.

You could always turn up the volume. I mean you do work in a call center...this is just another case of someone that doesn't know how to deal with your "energy"....M'lady is going to have to call to set up an appointment....email me her name and if she gets her she can tell her to speak up, I cant here you, and why are you mumbling ;-)

Honestly, just tell her.. you know, My voice carries, if you have a problem with that you should move, but we are in a professional office and I don't appreciate the unprofessionalism of mocking me. Then if that doesn't work...the knife.

[felisviolaceous.livejournal.com]

Then if that doesn't work...the knife.

*in my nice distinct accent* M'am, I LIKE how you think! :D

The next time she "tries" to tell me to quiet down I have already planned to tell her exactly that my voice has a pitch that carries and I'm not going to put all my focus on keeping my voice down instead on making sure my customer has a good experience on the phone. It's her problem, not mine.