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[felisviolaceous]

Ok...I AM an adult.  I am 31 years old.  I am a parent of an 8 yr old.  I am living in and paying for a house not renting.  I work at an 8 to 5 job.  And yet...I get treated and responded to like I'm a teenager or younger. 

I have many times noticed that I'm just the teenager trying to fit in with the adults in crowds, on lists, and even on live journal.  I join a conversation with some good points and get my head patted on, humoursly smiled at and then told to go run along and play.  This has happened too MANY times for me to not notice this.  It's frustrating...disheartening...and just downright depressing!!!!  I don't like being ignored.  And yes...right now I AM acting like a pouty child who got ignored one too many times...but hell...that's how I get treated so why not act like one? 

So what if I actually enjoy myself at functions that are supposed to be enjoyable.  So what if I actually laugh in a way that Santa Claus would be proud of.  So what if I live life to it's upmost fullest.  That doesn't mean I'm immature or childish.  It just means that I learned the lesson that my Father lived every day of his life...to live with laughter and joy in your life!! 

Now...I don't expect people to respond to this post .  You didn't before why should you now.  But I do hope some of you will be brave enough to answer me this one question.

What is it that actually makes one person view and then treat and then talk to another person like an adult!!!

Comments

[red-tanya.livejournal.com]

I've never noticed myself treating you this way. I'm not denying that I have, just letting you know that I'm not aware of it if I'm doing it.

As to your primary question, "What is it that actually makes one person view and then treat and then talk to another person like an adult?" - to me, it is that the other person demonstrates in some way that they want to be treated that way and are capable of responding as an adult.

I look for a certain degree of intelligence (you far exceed it), self-awareness (again, you more than qualify), and for that person to take personal responsibility for him/her self (I have no indication that you do not do this).

As far as I can tell, you meet all of the criteria I use for treating someone as an adult. If I haven't been, I have made a mistake in judgement and I owe you an apology. Is that the case?