Just a quick flare! :{

[felisviolaceous]

Some people just need to get their hair yanked on HARD and an extremely rough knife drawn SLOWWWWWLYYYY across their necks...just so they do not spread their immature, intolerant attitudes to others!!!!

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[zenhedon.livejournal.com]

Probably turned him on, like it did me (not the described act, mind you, but the intensity, the ferocity)

[roninjedi.livejournal.com]

Actually, it was both impressive and a touch scary. Being the the adult survivor of emotional child abuse (thanks, Dad!), I don't always handle emotional intensity in others with the rational detachment I should. In addition, I've worked ultra-hard for years to suppress any hint of emotional intensity in myself with near fatal results.

This is probably why I've only been able to go a little-ways into the BDSM world. That is a volitile world that is fueled by emotional intensity of many types. I'm too afraid of power (mine or others') to do anything more than dabble at domination (role playing). I'm too terrified of being at someone's "mercy" and receiving discomfort or actual (gasp) pain, to try subbing. Almost all mildly intense play classifies as "edge play" for me. I've only recently come to acknowledge the awful truth about myself.

I am, in fact, an extremely passionate individual who has learned to turn that passion completely off out of self-defense (like a Vulcan). I'm now in the process of learning how to cope with the idea of intensity. Once that's done, I hope to learn how to *use* emotional intensity. I suspect it can be skillfully wielded like a gentleman's rapier and not like a Neanderthal's club. Now I just need to figure out how to do that.

[zenhedon.livejournal.com]

suspect it can be skillfully wielded like a gentleman's rapier

Could be :-) What do YOU think, thenakedredhead - is that possible?

[sarcasm=off]
What it takes is being willing to use that intensity; for most of us raised to be gentlemen, that does mean having to circumvent/short-circuit our lifelong imprinted "be nice" conditioning. One trick is to realize...you're still "being nice" in the end - at least to a masochistic submissive piggyslut who's motto is "more more more" :-) It also helps to have a sadistic nature - not necessarily pain-sadism, but control, emotional-intensity sadism (there's probably a better word, can't think of it) - such that wielding that "rapier" is immensely satisfying & erotic.

It occurs to me that learning to "wield" emotional intensity would be very good for you - a way of dealing with it, other than detaching or turning it off. Glad to discuss more anytime...

[roninjedi.livejournal.com]

Glad to discuss more anytime...

Please!

But not tonight. Must sleep.

[felisviolaceous.livejournal.com]

Ooooohhhhh...I find it very easy for me to wield "it" like a gentleman's rapier. You two can pick the "it". *giggling*


As for emotional intensity, my whole life was lived with emotions out on our sleeves for all to see and do what they will with it. I was, fortunately, raised in a family where living like that didn't become a bad thing the older I became. The only drawback to it is apparently if you don't hide your emotions people assume you're immature.

One of the things I've really been searching in the BDSM world is the emotional intensity. Yes...the physical intensity is great and wonderful...but the emotional intensity can really rock one's world! Plus...with me being so open emotionally all my life...it becomes a challenge to find something that actually challenges my own emotional boundaries. That's where the mental aspects of dominance and submission comes into play for me.