suspect it can be skillfully wielded like a gentleman's rapier
Could be :-) What do YOU think, thenakedredhead - is that possible?
[sarcasm=off] What it takes is being willing to use that intensity; for most of us raised to be gentlemen, that does mean having to circumvent/short-circuit our lifelong imprinted "be nice" conditioning. One trick is to realize...you're still "being nice" in the end - at least to a masochistic submissive piggyslut who's motto is "more more more" :-) It also helps to have a sadistic nature - not necessarily pain-sadism, but control, emotional-intensity sadism (there's probably a better word, can't think of it) - such that wielding that "rapier" is immensely satisfying & erotic.
It occurs to me that learning to "wield" emotional intensity would be very good for you - a way of dealing with it, other than detaching or turning it off. Glad to discuss more anytime...
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Could be :-) What do YOU think,
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What it takes is being willing to use that intensity; for most of us raised to be gentlemen, that does mean having to circumvent/short-circuit our lifelong imprinted "be nice" conditioning. One trick is to realize...you're still "being nice" in the end - at least to a masochistic submissive piggyslut who's motto is "more more more" :-) It also helps to have a sadistic nature - not necessarily pain-sadism, but control, emotional-intensity sadism (there's probably a better word, can't think of it) - such that wielding that "rapier" is immensely satisfying & erotic.
It occurs to me that learning to "wield" emotional intensity would be very good for you - a way of dealing with it, other than detaching or turning it off. Glad to discuss more anytime...